I often get asked, “How do I master my NLP skills?”

Answer: “One bite at a time.”

Sharpening your sensory experience, paying attention to all the non-verbals you may not have been consciously aware of before, mastering your state, establishing rapport on multiple levels, using the meta-model, listening to sensory predicates signaling representational systems, identifying metaprograms, eliciting strategy, using sleight of mouth patterns, carefully using your advanced language patterns and the milton-model, and everything else that NLP gives you as a model of excellence (which would take much longer than a blog post to mention)…takes time.

And practice.

The best way to learn it is one bite at a time. With that said and at the same time, much of what you learn in NLP can’t be singled out and be useful. Too much of it works together with something else.

You can’t drive a car by “just paying attention to the steering wheel”, you have to pay attention to other things simultaneously such as your gas pedal, the road in front of you, cars around you, etc. But there are other things you learn to pay attention once you get better at mastering the fundamentals of driving a car – you start to notice the radio station, the weather, your passengers and perhaps engage even in conversation, the speedometer, your fuel gauge, and everything else that completes your driving experience. Most, if not all, becomes very second nature with experience and application.

That is where unconscious competence begins. You learned how to master driving a car, so you can also learn how to master your NLP skills.

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